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hi rachel, i need to know when ‘it gets better’. i’ve been waiting for years. and not just waiting. working. really hard. and now i am alone in this city with no job, and my friends are gone. and i wake up sad, and i’m losing faith in this adventure

you asked this three weeks ago and i’ve been thinking about it ever since, trying to think of what i can tell you that won’t sound trite and patronizing. because i know what you mean. to be honest, things just ‘getting better’ has never been my experience either. things are better for me now than they were once, but that’s because of a lot of things, like the fact that i left that place. i think riese has said it this way before and i agree: “it gets better when you do.” or, as i guess i would put it, it doesn’t always get better. but you get stronger.

i know you are working really hard, and it feels like there’s no point because it’s not changing anything. i know what it feels like to wake up sad despite how hard you’re trying not to. all i can say is that the one sort of maxim i’ve lived by and still cling to is that eventually, working hard does pay off. there is one true thing in this world and it is busting your ass for what you want. and if what you want is for things to be better, then i really believe that your working hard will make it happen.

there is a thing i read in an interview/book review that i think about a lot now, about faith and working hard and what it is like to feel like you don’t want to do this anymore. maybe it won’t help or maybe it will feel trite but it helps things make sense to me. you can find the whole thing here - http://www.theawl.com/2011/05/when-your-shrink-dies-emma-forrests-therapy-memoir

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“"Reading Your Voice in My Head,” I tell her, “made me want to learn needlepoint and make a wall hanging of the note you wrote yourself after the sobbing-on-the-sidewalk incident:

Fuck it, then. I choose this.

It chooses me. I choose it back.”

She likes this idea: “To go with the people who have the last lines of Ulysses tattoo’d on their wrists. 'Yes I said, Yes I will yes.’ ”

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What would you do if you found out laneia or rachel were actually straight and happily cis male (i know you’ve met them both, but if you hadn’t)

i would sink into a depression of indeterminate length
probably never make a new friend again for the rest of my life
maybe get a job on a cruise ship or at a grocery store
maintain a 2-3 human social circle, not including my friends
stare at the wall

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Laneia! Remember the time that I asked you about lurking and then the whole “Save Autostraddle” thing happened and I started commenting and now I’ve been commenting ever since and its helping me get through another lonely summer @ home? Thanks for that <3

Hi! I’m glad! You’re welcome and thank you for being part of the conversation!

Are you doing our book club this summer? You should. THERE ARE PRIZES.

http://www.autostraddle.com/get-ready-for-autostraddle-summer-book-club-extravaganzaramapalooza-92984/

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So when do we find out if NY got that oneeee vote? tonight?

ugh i don’t even know but i have so many feelings

also, there’s this really special quote that i just can’t even process right now

“One of the conflicts that Grisanti can’t reconcile is the issue of same-sex marriage with his Catholic faith.

"It has nothing to do with politics. It has to do with my own personal belief,” he said, according to the Buffalo News.“

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Is it hard living far away from the other AS team members? i feel like you guys are so close and would get annoyed of not being able to hang out? Or maybe thats just how i would feel if i were you guys.

sometimes. i mean remember that for the most part we ‘met’ on the internet and not real life so being far apart has always sort of been the norm. but also yes, sometimes it is. it’s ok though because someday we will all live in a giant house in berkley and i will make the coffee in the morning and laneia will make sandwiches for lunch.

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me and this girl are sleeping together and pretending we dont like each other when we both do. like….snuggling and holding hands and kissing and then taking a break to yell “whatever i dont like you BTW”. my best friend says someone is gonna fall in lov

e and get their heart broken. is she right? is it cool to keep having tons of sex and cuddles and denying any and all feelings? should one of us say/do something? ACK

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i think ani wrote a song about this

“feels like reckless driving when we’re talking
it’s fun while it lasts, and it’s faster than walking
but no one’s going to sympathize when we crash
they’ll say "you hit what you head for, you get what you ask”
and we’ll say we didn’t know, we didn’t even try
one minute there was road beneath us, the next just sky"

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