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is it unreasonable to expect to talk to my girlfriend every day? we hung out every day, spent every night together when we lived in the same zip code, and now we’re long-distance. i feel like the needy lesbian stereotype.

i don’t think it’s unreasonable, but also i long to be one of those people who can go a full 24 hrs without contact with their activity partner. i think i would be such a badass if i could do that.

we are not badasses, you and i. we’re just two girls with some feelings to share.

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I have my first date with a girl next week. I AM FREAKING OUT! What do I say? What do I do? What if she doesn’t like me when she is sober??

first you say “hi!” and then you hug her (i know – this sounds insane but i swear, people hug when they meet. totally a thing.) and then you say “i really love / like your [necklace / shirt / shoes / alternative lifestyle haircut / jeans / car / whole entire face situation]! that’s [great / so cute / awesome, let me see it / neat / beautiful, can i touch it].” and you smile a lot.

if she doesn’t like you when she’s sober, you should casually start looking for someone who will.

beyond that, i feel like you should read this:
http://www.autostraddle.com/lesbian-courtship-55145/

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Do you feel like you are allowed to criticize things at AS or is it really frowned upon to go against the group consensus?

this is a really interesting question to me but also kind of hard to answer? mostly because i’m not sure what you mean by “group consensus,” because i don’t necessarily feel like there is one. we don’t have as much of a hive mind as it sometimes seems, that is something i think we kind of cultivate in an attempt to make AS seem more like a coherent publication and less of a shared blog of like ~10 people, which is not how i like people to perceive us. there are a lot of things we disagree on, and those disagreements are part of what make up the content that ends up happening. we all talk about every new writer and every new article, even when it’s our own, and sometimes we reject ourselves or reject each other or heavily rewrite each other or yeah, we don’t agree. and it’s okay, and i think we’re better off for it. i don’t think there’s any repercussions for criticism; if there were, our magazine would suck and we would have failed long before now.

bottom line we are actually all pretty different, and that’s part of what makes us good. i don’t like Freedom as much as riese did; sarah doesn’t like tequila as much as i do; neither laneia nor i like glee. i am bored by entertainment/lifestyle news and i’m sure plenty of people are bored by news/politics. i guess the point is that ‘you do you’ is not just a thing we say, but words we live by! god that’s precious. but true!

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I’m thinking of applying to a food service company (different location) where my work experience years ago was so terrible it motivated me to go back to college. I’m a graduate now, and this is where it’s gotten me. Is it silly to feel sad/embarrassed?

this isn’t where it’s gotten you, this is just where you are now. i would probably also feel sad, but then probably someone who loved me would say “hey, you have to pay rent. you won’t be doing this forever. you still have your basil plant and somewhere to go at christmas. i love you.” and i’d feel better.

so, that.

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