My therapist has giving me the task of going out and doing things to socialize. I’m in Boston. Where should I go? I just spent a while milling around google. I didn’t find much other than Dyke Night. Advice?
my stance has always been and always will be that going to bars is actually a terrible way to socialize, because it’s dark and scary and you don’t know anyone and even if you did it would be too loud to talk and the drinks are expensive. it’s hard to talk to anyone because you have nothing in common other than both having stamps on your hand. here are some ways i think you would be better off socializing:
+ volunteer! go to a soup kitchen or be staff at a charity 5K or help at an animal shelter. it is fun and good and you will meet other people and have something in common to talk about.
+ i understand that meetups are a thing? like not just AS meetups, but like organized ones on a website. there are definitely a few for queer girls in boston. find one and go to it!
+ if you play sports, or even feel like playing sports might not suck, join a team! not a hardcore one, like a local frisbee golf group or something. it’ll be fun.
+ find a place you like, like a cafe or a sandwich shop or the library or something, and become a regular (to the extent that you can afford to.) socializing with counter staff is easy because they’re being paid to be friendly back, and you can make small talk with other customers because clearly you are both into this place, so you have that to talk about.
+ join a book club! besides the AS one that you are obviously already a member of right?
if you are really committed to going to a bar, post in the AS group for Boston and ask if anyone wants to go to Queeraoke. It’s small and nonthreatening and karaoke is the ultimate form of socialization.
