what spanish/south american authors have you read?
um, mostly the kind of obvious ones: gabriel garcia marquez, borges, julio cortazar, etc. i’ve read a little ruben dario and jose marti and neruda, i’ve read pedro paramo, and i also like cherrie moraga a lot, although she’s chicana. i haven’t read as many castellano authors for some reason, although i did read a really dense novel about the civil war for school once. i don’t know, i was a spanish minor but not all of it stuck with me
what’s in your opinion the best (painless) way to cuddle in bed?
i am really concerned that however you are cuddling now is painful?? that is not how it is supposed to work??
i am in general pretty pro-spooning. Obvs your spooning orientation (big/little/medium/just right) will be special and different and unique to you, and that is fine. I am also a big fan of having one person lay on their back and the other person sort of curl up around them and lay their head on their chest - I believe this is what Laneia refers to as “refrigerator/magnet” cuddling. Try these and report back pls.
I can study here or in Big City, but Big City means losing her. Maybe it’s time for a change, bu it’s been a long herd year and I don’t want any more pain. What should I do?
i think you should move to the city. everybody should move to the city at least once.
i’m conflicted about the netflix price gouging. is watching The L Word Season 6 on my phone actually worth $20/month??? I REALLY JUST WANNA FIGURE OUT WHO KILLED JENNY IF I KEEP WATCHING IT WHILE ON THE BUS OVER & OVER I KNOW CAN FIGURE IT OUT LANEIA
ilene chaiken doesn’t even know who killed jenny. save your money.
what do you do to stay cool in the heat? i am jealous that boys can go around with their shirts off!
we take turns putting ice down each other’s shirts
If you want to get married in NYC on the 24th, you’ll have to take a number. Best weekend ever? That and more on this historic moment.
a cute girl who has been dating this guy on and off asked me to go to the beach with her. she says shes into girls too. do i go or hold back so i don’t get involved with something thatll be nothing more than a hookup?
listen whatever happens out there, whatever you choose and however you feel, just don’t get sand in your ass.
do you ever get tired/bored of reading about anything LGBTetc related?
yes, i get bored of reading about people with their heads up their own asses who can’t think of anyone besides themselves and their feelings and their identity and their sexuality flipping out about every goddamn little elitist PC thing in the universe as if that’s going to fix anything for anyone besides them and their 5 friends from their women’s studies seminars who will now feel safe and protected in their dorm room during casual conversations with straight people. i get bored of reading about people who don’t see the big picture. i think the personal is political but sometimes the personal is just personal. and part of moving forward is recognizing that things won’t always be comfortable, or safe, or even easy, and that you might face unmistakable adversity and prejudice and you might have to hold your tongue so hard your head explodes but that’s part of life. it is! it’s just part of life. but it makes you better and stronger and more capable of facing the big bad terrible world out there because it is big and it is bad and it is, unfortunately, terrible, but if we want to be a part of it and be heard that means picking our battles sometimes. part of life is dealing with these spaces and then figuring out ways to change them instead of sitting at our fucking computers and whining because we’re sad and alienated and probably hate our lives and feel if we can at least control the discourse on this-or-that obscure feminist queer blog then somehow we have control over our lives but we don’t, you don’t. the only thing that will change your life is changing your life. there’s a huge big picture and we have to be realistic about the kind of adversity that’s out there and be REALISTIC about what one can expect from people who didn’t read the same books you read and be REALISTIC about how the world is and realize that none of us, not ONE of us, is the center of the world, and that our feelings only matter insofar as feelings are things we have in common with other people. so yes, i am sick of reading stories about our people in privileged spaces having privileged arguments over privileged issues – which has a value, but that value is educational and self-reinforcing for the people involved in that conversation and it holds little direct worth to the outside world – and then these people are trying to get the mainstream to listen to them when they’re not even speaking the same language. everything we do has to make itself relevant to everyone else on a very basic human level. there is something universal out there.
i want every story i read to be universal. i want every story i read to be infinite.
Hi Riese, the bar that says “groups” & “members” no longer says groups or members on it, it’s been like this for a little while, maybe it’s just me? I didn’t want to complain because I love you guys so much, and I can totally deal - so maybe don’t worry..
that’s because now it’s in the main header with all the subjects and stuff. see how it says like “the goods” and “arts & entertainment” and “society & culture” and “politics & activism” and then it says “community”? hover on “community” and everything you want will unfurl before your very eyes!