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i hate this rationale i have for not coming out. i hate these thoughts of “well, i’m not *really* sure” when i am pretty damn close near to 100% sure. ugh, i’m so stuck. any helpful words?

i think you already know everything i can tell you but i understand sometimes needing to hear it from someone else to be able to believe it. here’s the thing: with some very few exceptions, this is not something straight people think about. straight people are never “close to 100% sure;” there’s nothing to be sure about because they don’t even ask themselves. they just go to in out (haha get it?) or best buy or whatever it is that you do when you’re not spending hours obsessing over your sexual orientation. obsessing over your sexual orientation is not a thing everyone does; it is, 99% of the time, a thing that baby queers do. 99% is pretty damn close to 100%.

and also? you don’t have to be 100% sure. that’s fine. some people have moments where they’re like “and then i knew. and understood that i could never let a dude with sweaty hands and a goatee take me to see a ben affleck movie again.” that’s great for those people. the rest of us are never 100% sure about ANYTHING. we still have days where we’re like “what if i am actually an alien??? or a clone?? or a devil child like my senile grandmother used to tell me i was?” for our WHOLE LIVES.

so, moral of the story is, you totes don’t have to come out if you don’t want to. just don’t let the idea of not being sure be what stops you.

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how do you feel about nipple piercings? how do queers of the world (that you know) feel about them? are they just a straight guy thing? please tell me they’re not just a straight guy thing

i know at least one queer with nipple piercings. they’re not just a straight guy thing i don’t think. i mean really isn’t that what the revolution is all about, making sure nothing is just a straight guy thing, even if it is scary-sounding and painful and seems like it would be really uncomfortable in winter/the cold?

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I used to have this feeling of infinite possibility. It used to run through my head and through my veins and across the synapses between my nerves all day. It’s not that I felt invincible; it’s more that I felt safe. I felt protected, from my decisions, from my mistakes. I took advantage of my youth, of the feeling that there would always be more time. I held on to the absolute, undying belief in second chances, and the assumption that, if I waited long enough, things could (and would) fix themselves.
Katrina C. Danger (http://www.autostraddle.com/confessions-of-a-post-teenage-runagay-the-future-freaks-me-out-99972/)

not even a word about norway? tsk.

honestly, i’m a little curious why you’d ask this but nobody asked why we didn’t cover the uprising in Egypt, the bloodshed in Syria, the bombing in Russia earlier this year, the earthquake in Haiti, the flooding in Pakistan or anything about the violence in Libya or Yemen or Sudan? Is it because “white people” live in Norway?

honestly i think it’s a little fucked up that anyone would take the time to come over here and tsk-tsk me about autostraddle – a news, entertainment and opinion site on queer and feminist issues – not having anything about norway. really? is this how you pay tribute to the lives lost there? is this how you mourn that tragedy? is this how you express your shock at how cruel and terrible the world can be to innocent people? by scolding me on formspring?

regardless, if you’re remotely interested in how we create our stories, it’s like this: we report breaking news when it’s queer/feminist related. aside from breaking news, every story we write has to have a unique autostraddley “point” – some kind of takeaway, some issue at stake. we wouldn’t simply report what happened in norway because, as indicated by the fact that you came here to ask me this, it has been and will be reported on elsewhere, and better than we could do it. if we’re going to bring something off-topic to AS, it’s because we feel we can host a conversation on it that can’t happen elsewhere. so, if we are to write on norway, we would wait until the story had fully developed – aka a suspect was found (which JUST happened) – and then if there was an issue there to discuss (religion, in this case) that falls under our umbrella, and we felt someone was qualified to write on it, we would do so. that would happen tomorrow or the next day, however, if it happens.

in the meantime if you’re looking for breaking news on these issues, i suggest you visit news websites who have the resources to properly report on this tragedy with the respect and thoroughness it deserves.

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