“If you could take a ‘cap of Claire talking about that magazine stuff and then draw all over it to express how it makes me feel, I’d like that”
“internalized homophobia”
if you believe that people of all genders should be perceived as equals and that men are not inherently superior to women and that people of all genders deserve equal rights/access/opportunities/consideration in life, then you are a feminist.
Inspired by Autostraddle.
someone has put images to my words
I actually wrote about all of my feelings in an email to the friend who recommended it to me. I will share selections with you:
+ “this BBC woman’s voice is so soothing, i want her to narrate my life”
+ “i am worried she has a more fulfilling relationship with that banister than i have had with some people”
+ “"I love him for the narrowness of his gibs.” <— writing that down, using it in bed"
+ “oh no are all objectsexuals children of divorce? is this my future???”
+ “so wait, they’re basically filming her having sex with the eiffel tower? this is like the real l word! the real eiffel tower! aaaaaaaaah! and now she’s interviewing her about having sex while she has sex? boner-killer, lady!”
Here is something you need to know about me: I care about this community and the people in it. This is not a flippant statement. Its brevity does not subvert the enormity of its meaning. It is also not a passive statement. I actively care about the people who spend time here… Caring about this community is not an abstract concept to me. It is concrete and it is personal and it is an active practice.
Here are some other things you need to know about me: I make mistakes. I feel shitty, really shitty, when I make a mistake that hurts someone in this community. I convey all of the above as preface to this: Because I care about this community as I do, it is singularly infuriating and hurtful that I am repeatedly accused of acting in bad faith when I make a mistake. Or just do/say something with which someone disagrees. The overt accusations or veiled implications—deliberate or otherwise—of bad faith, deliberate cruelty, hidden agendas, indifference, etc. are profoundly demoralizing. And I am demoralized. I, and the other contributors, are axiomatically assumed by many Shakers to be acting in bad faith if we err (or even if we are perceived to have erred, but haven’t), even as we are simultaneously expected never to err at all. Shakesville was founded by a person, and it is managed and nurtured by people. And the continual proclamations that “I can’t believe this would happen at Shakesville, of all places!” every time I, or one of the contributors, makes a mistake, necessarily implies that perfection is expected of us, as if Shakesville is a magical kingdom created of pixie dust and not a virtual space made possible by the hard work of people who are flawed and fuck up just like any other people. Our charter specifically provides room for us—and everyone else to inhabits this space—to fail, as we inevitably will. If you won’t support the provision of that room to fail, then you’re not providing a safe space for us.
i don’t know what that means?? is that good?? i hope so
ilene chaiken had it taken down for copyright infringement via CBS even though at least the parts I edited – trailer & part one – do not in any way violate any copyrights of CBS unless one wanted to get really petty and claim “the real l word” itself – those words – are protected. isn’t it neat. “the man” and all.
YES. have you read this yet? you need to read this.
http://www.autostraddle.com/boyshorts-mens-underpants-girls-lesbian-1010-22539/
but in case you hate clicking or something, here is a refresher:
boyshorts: supposed to be “for ladies,” they are not unlike traditional “panties” (do you hate that word? i can’t decide if i hate that word) but have more coverage, possibly just covering slightly more of your ass but potentially giving you coverage from the hips to upper thigh. (sometimes they have cute boy-details like buttons or a real button fly, which i like personally)
boxers: these are loose and comfy, they have an elastic waistband but are otherwise really roomy. can be hard to fit underneath skinny jeans naturally or easily. they are not unlike what is usually sold as girls’ pajama shorts for at least twice as much. buy them in the mens’ section instead.
boxer briefs: sort of like a union of the first two. elastic waistband but also stretchy/fitted cotton, usually covering from your belly button or hips to mid-thigh. less ultra-comfy than boxers, easier to fit under skinny jeans. there are some styles sold for women, sort of, like hanes for her, but you’re probably better off just buying regular hanes’ mens’ in a smaller size.
yes? got it? good.
ok i wrote this for you:
http://www.autostraddle.com/on-the-tragedy-in-norway-102373/
